अमरीकी संस्था 'सेंटर्स फॉर डिजीज कंट्रोल '(CDC) के मुताबिक़ ३४ %अमरीकी ओबीस है .अलावा इसके कितने ही और लोग ओवरवेट हैं .मोटापा इनके यौन जीवन को असरग्रस्त कर रहा है .ऐसे ही लोगों पर
“Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy,” मेंएक अध्ययन हाल ही में प्रकाशित हुआ है .पता चला ये लोग अन्यों के बरक्स अपने यौन जीवन से संतुष्ट नहीं हैं .
एक और अध्ययन में ड्यूक यूनिवर्सिटी के रिसर्चरों ने बतलाया है ,तकरीबन ३० %ओबीस यौन अरुचि के चलते ही अपना वजन कम करवाने इलाज़ के लिए भागे भागे आगे आयें हैं . बेशक आत्माभिमान सेल्फ रेस्पेक्ट की हिफाज़त के लिए भी ये लोग अब अपने ओबीस होने से परेशान हैं .हर कीमत पर वजन कम करना चाहतें हैं .
लेकिन कुछ मेडिकल कंडीशंस जैसे हाई कोलेस्ट्रोल ,हाई ब्लड प्रेशर ,मधुमेह आदि में भी, मर्दों में पीनाइल आर्ट -अरीज़ (शिश्न को रक्त ले जाने वाली ब्लड वेसिल्स )को पूरा रक्त न पहुँच पाने की वजह से कामेच्छा अभाव और लिंगोथ्थान अभाव (इरेक्टाइल डिसफंक्शन )देखने में आ रहें हैं .इन्हीं हारी -बीमारियों की वजह से औरतों की जननांगों तक पूरा रक्त न पहुँच पाना उनके भी यौन उत्तेजन अभाव की वजह बन रहा है .
एक्स्ट्रा वेट के चलते घुटने भी जल्दी ज़वाब दे जातें हैं जिसकी वजह से कई आसन ,यौन -मुद्राएँ संपन्न ही नहीं हो पातीं .ऐसे में दम्पति को कुछ पसंदीदा पोज़िसंस को छोड़ना पड़ता है .
अलबत्ता कई ओवरवेट मज़े में हैं अपने यौन जीवन से पूरी तरह संतुष्ट हैं .इन्हें कुछ विशेष लाभ भी हासिल हैं :
औसतन ऐसे बिरले मर्द औसतन ७.३ मिनिट तक यौन आनंद लूटते रहतें हैं जब क़ि इनके छरहरे साथी १०३ सेकिंड्स तक ही यौन क्रीडा में सक्रीय रह ,खेल पातें हैं .
ऐसे ही कुछ ओबीस औरतों की मर्दों के साथ सम्भोग रत रहने की संभावना बढ़ जाती है .यौन सम्बन्ध बनाने की आवृत्ति भी .यानीइनमे इससे कोई फर्क नहीं पड़ता ,आपका वजन १३० पोंड है या ३३० पोंड .
समाधान :ओबीस जो यौनानंद प्राप्त करने के लिए जूझ रहें हैं ऐसी यौन मुद्राएँ सम्भोग मुद्राएँ चुने जिनमे घुटनों पर अतिरिक्त दवाब न पड़े .
Try a new position. Experiment with positions that take the weight off your joints (and your partner): Try spooning side by side, rear entry, and modified missionary positions with pillows under the female partner’s hips.
मर्द पीछे से प्रवेश ले सकता है .सवाल कामयाबी से दाखिला मिलने का है .
मुख मैथुन कामसूत्र में वात्सायन ने समस्या ग्रस्त लोगों के लिए ही तजवीज़ किया था .हस्त उत्तेजन भी शिखर पर ले जाके छोड़ सकता है शेष यौन क्रीडा संपन्न करने के लिए .चुम्बन आलिंगन का अपना आनंद है .सम्भोगानंद बनिए कम से कम कोशिश तो कीजे .
कभी अँधेरे का लुत्फ़ उठाइये .लग गया तो तीर नहीं तो तुक्का तो है ही है .परि- लोक ही सही .
आचार्य निशांत केतु ने एक किताब लिखी है :योषा -अग्नि इसमें एक वैश्या की आत्म कथा है जिसमे भांति भाँति के बे -डौल ,बे -साख्ता मोटे भौंडे मर्दों को नायिका काम शीर्ष तक युक्ति पूर्वक ले जाती है .मुझे न सिर्फ यह किताब पढने का सौभाग्य प्राप्त है मैं इस पुस्तक के विमोचनमें मी भी शरीक था .विमोचन उपरान्त पुस्तक विमर्श में भी जिसमे देश भर के चुनिन्दा यौन -माहिरों ने अपने अपने वक्तव्य दिए थे .
लिंग को योनी उन्मुख करने के लिए नायिका ग्राहक की संतुष्टि के लिए हर तरह के पापड़ बेलती है .वैश्या धर्म है ग्राहक की संतुष्टि .'आनेस्टी इज दी बेस्ट पालिसी ' यही उसका दीनोइमान है .यही इस पुस्तक का सार है .वैश्या के चरित्र और आत्मविश्वास और उत्थान की कथा है यह उपन्यास .
सन्दर्भ -सामिग्री :
On
the CBS sitcom “Mike & Molly,” the title characters meet at an
Overeaters Anonymous support group and embark on a romantic
relationship.
It’s an uncommon look at intimacy between plus-sized partners, played mainly for laughs. But with obesity rates skyrocketing in this country, sex when one or both partners is heavy is becoming a very real issue.
Nearly 34% of American adults are obese, according to the CDC, and many more are overweight. It’s not surprising that people who are carrying extra pounds may find themselves grappling with the effects on their sex lives.
Being overweight or obese can put a damper on things in the bedroom, as my clients Tom and Laura discovered. Married for 12 years, they had always enjoyed a satisfying sex life - until Laura began to gain weight. At first Tom was understanding: He knew that Laura’s self-esteem had taken a hit and he didn’t want to add to that.
When they came to see me after many sexless months, however, Tom finally admitted that he was having trouble finding Laura as attractive as he once had.
Whether you’ve always been heavy or have just put on weight over the years, you may notice that your sex life is going downhill. A recent study of moderately to severely obese people, published in the “Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy,” found that these men and women reported being less satisfied than the general population.
Another study, by researchers at Duke University, found that up to 30% of obese people who sought help controlling their weight did so due to problems with their libido, sex drive, and/or sexual performance.
While self-esteem may play a role, it’s not the only factor involved. Conditions such as high cholesterol, high blood pressure, and diabetes often accompany obesity and can impair blood flow to the genitals, resulting in problems with erectile dysfunction in men and arousal in both men and women. Extra weight can also stress the knees and other joints, making some sexual positions uncomfortable.
Of course, not everyone who is overweight is in poor health or unfit. Some research even suggests that heavier people may enjoy a few extra benefits in the bedroom: A 2008 study in “Obstetrics & Gynecology” looked at more than 7,000 women and found that those who were overweight were actually slightly more likely to report having had sex with men than their slimmer counterparts.
Another study found men who are overweight are less likely to have premature ejaculation and tend to last longer in bed—7.3 minutes, compared to just 103 seconds for thinner men. This difference is possibly because heavy men typically have higher levels of the female sex hormone estradiol, which delays climax.
It’s absolutely possible to enjoy a satisfying sex life whether you weigh 130 pounds or 330 pounds. If you’re overweight and struggling to keep things steamy, though, it’s time to take action. That doesn’t have to mean going on a diet, although shedding just 10 pounds can stimulate sex hormones and improve health.
Try a new position. Experiment with positions that take the weight off your joints (and your partner): Try spooning side by side, rear entry, and modified missionary positions with pillows under the female partner’s hips.
Enjoy intimacy. Sex isn’t just about intercourse. Explore other forms of intimacy, including oral sex, manual stimulation, toys, and even just kissing and cuddling.
Think outside the box. It may sound silly, but my clients Tom and Laura reclaimed their sex lives with a simple flick of the switch. The next time they made love, they dimmed the lights and relied on the power of fantasy to carry them both over the edge. Now they’ve discovered a new found excitement in the bedroom that has nothing to do weight
राम राम भाई !
आज का नीतिपरक दोहा :
नहाए धोये क्या हुआ, जो मन मैल न जाय ।
मीन सदा जल में रहै, धोये बास न जाय ॥
Try a new position. Experiment with positions that take the weight off your joints (and your partner): Try spooning side by side, rear entry, and modified missionary positions with pillows under the female partner’s hips.
मर्द पीछे से प्रवेश ले सकता है .सवाल कामयाबी से दाखिला मिलने का है .
मुख मैथुन कामसूत्र में वात्सायन ने समस्या ग्रस्त लोगों के लिए ही तजवीज़ किया था .हस्त उत्तेजन भी शिखर पर ले जाके छोड़ सकता है शेष यौन क्रीडा संपन्न करने के लिए .चुम्बन आलिंगन का अपना आनंद है .सम्भोगानंद बनिए कम से कम कोशिश तो कीजे .
कभी अँधेरे का लुत्फ़ उठाइये .लग गया तो तीर नहीं तो तुक्का तो है ही है .परि- लोक ही सही .
आचार्य निशांत केतु ने एक किताब लिखी है :योषा -अग्नि इसमें एक वैश्या की आत्म कथा है जिसमे भांति भाँति के बे -डौल ,बे -साख्ता मोटे भौंडे मर्दों को नायिका काम शीर्ष तक युक्ति पूर्वक ले जाती है .मुझे न सिर्फ यह किताब पढने का सौभाग्य प्राप्त है मैं इस पुस्तक के विमोचनमें मी भी शरीक था .विमोचन उपरान्त पुस्तक विमर्श में भी जिसमे देश भर के चुनिन्दा यौन -माहिरों ने अपने अपने वक्तव्य दिए थे .
लिंग को योनी उन्मुख करने के लिए नायिका ग्राहक की संतुष्टि के लिए हर तरह के पापड़ बेलती है .वैश्या धर्म है ग्राहक की संतुष्टि .'आनेस्टी इज दी बेस्ट पालिसी ' यही उसका दीनोइमान है .यही इस पुस्तक का सार है .वैश्या के चरित्र और आत्मविश्वास और उत्थान की कथा है यह उपन्यास .
सन्दर्भ -सामिग्री :
Struggling with sex when you're overweight
Ian Kerner,
a sexuality counselor and New York Times best-selling author, blogs
about sex on Thursdays on The Chart. Read more from him on his website, GoodInBed.
On
the CBS sitcom “Mike & Molly,” the title characters meet at an
Overeaters Anonymous support group and embark on a romantic
relationship.It’s an uncommon look at intimacy between plus-sized partners, played mainly for laughs. But with obesity rates skyrocketing in this country, sex when one or both partners is heavy is becoming a very real issue.
Nearly 34% of American adults are obese, according to the CDC, and many more are overweight. It’s not surprising that people who are carrying extra pounds may find themselves grappling with the effects on their sex lives.
Being overweight or obese can put a damper on things in the bedroom, as my clients Tom and Laura discovered. Married for 12 years, they had always enjoyed a satisfying sex life - until Laura began to gain weight. At first Tom was understanding: He knew that Laura’s self-esteem had taken a hit and he didn’t want to add to that.
When they came to see me after many sexless months, however, Tom finally admitted that he was having trouble finding Laura as attractive as he once had.
Whether you’ve always been heavy or have just put on weight over the years, you may notice that your sex life is going downhill. A recent study of moderately to severely obese people, published in the “Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy,” found that these men and women reported being less satisfied than the general population.
Another study, by researchers at Duke University, found that up to 30% of obese people who sought help controlling their weight did so due to problems with their libido, sex drive, and/or sexual performance.
While self-esteem may play a role, it’s not the only factor involved. Conditions such as high cholesterol, high blood pressure, and diabetes often accompany obesity and can impair blood flow to the genitals, resulting in problems with erectile dysfunction in men and arousal in both men and women. Extra weight can also stress the knees and other joints, making some sexual positions uncomfortable.
Of course, not everyone who is overweight is in poor health or unfit. Some research even suggests that heavier people may enjoy a few extra benefits in the bedroom: A 2008 study in “Obstetrics & Gynecology” looked at more than 7,000 women and found that those who were overweight were actually slightly more likely to report having had sex with men than their slimmer counterparts.
Another study found men who are overweight are less likely to have premature ejaculation and tend to last longer in bed—7.3 minutes, compared to just 103 seconds for thinner men. This difference is possibly because heavy men typically have higher levels of the female sex hormone estradiol, which delays climax.
It’s absolutely possible to enjoy a satisfying sex life whether you weigh 130 pounds or 330 pounds. If you’re overweight and struggling to keep things steamy, though, it’s time to take action. That doesn’t have to mean going on a diet, although shedding just 10 pounds can stimulate sex hormones and improve health.
Try a new position. Experiment with positions that take the weight off your joints (and your partner): Try spooning side by side, rear entry, and modified missionary positions with pillows under the female partner’s hips.
Enjoy intimacy. Sex isn’t just about intercourse. Explore other forms of intimacy, including oral sex, manual stimulation, toys, and even just kissing and cuddling.
Think outside the box. It may sound silly, but my clients Tom and Laura reclaimed their sex lives with a simple flick of the switch. The next time they made love, they dimmed the lights and relied on the power of fantasy to carry them both over the edge. Now they’ve discovered a new found excitement in the bedroom that has nothing to do weight
राम राम भाई !
आज का नीतिपरक दोहा :
नहाए धोये क्या हुआ, जो मन मैल न जाय ।
मीन सदा जल में रहै, धोये बास न जाय ॥
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